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By on May 19, 2010

I love me some Tim Ferris.

The 4 Hour Work Week is one of my favorite business books and although I personally don’t think that outsourcing my entire life is the best course of action for me, I have incorporated some of his strategies to make my life better.

He recently wrote a blog post about haters.

You know, those people who hate on every thing you do in order to make themselves look better? The haters that I get are so belligerent sometimes that I can’t reprint what they call me but if you go to BiggerPockets.com and search for my posts you’ll see a bald hater named Jeff that hates on everything about me. Even this blog.

In fact, now that I’m looking at it, pretty much everyone on BP is a hater. (Note to self: stay off of BP!)

Anyway, the point is that if you experience any sort of success in your life, you’ll get a hater. Someone that feels so threatened by YOUR success that they feel compelled to hate on you.

“You’re a scam!” That’s the big one. Because goodness knows that nothing works. It’s all a scam. No good, dirty money-grubbing liars.

I can help you avoid foreclosure. SCAMMER! You just want to steal my house.
I can negotiate a short sale for you and buy this house. SCAMMER! I’ll get stuck with bad credit AND you’ll steal my house.
I can show you how I did master lease options so you can, too. SCAMMER! If you haven’t personally closed a deal in the last 10 minutes you’re a fraud.
I can show you how to get access to and close bulk REO deals. SCAMMER! Bulk REO doesn’t exist.

Ok, what was I talking about?

Oh yeah, Tim Ferriss!

So, this is a great article with great tips on dealing with the haters in your life. Here are the highlights:

Tim Ferriss Scam! Practical Tactics for Dealing with Haters

1. It doesn’t matter how many people don’t get it. What matters is how many people do.

“It’s critical in social media, as in life, to have a clear objective and not to lose sight of that,” Ferriss says. He argues that if your objective is to do the greatest good for the greatest number of people or to change the world in some small way (be it through a product or service), you only need to pick your first 1,000 fans — and carefully. “As long as you’re accomplishing your objectives, that 1,000 will lead to a cascading effect,” Ferriss explains. “The 10 million that don’t get it don’t matter.”

2. 10% of people will find a way to take anything personally. Expect it.

“People are least productive in reactive mode,” Ferriss states, before explaining that if you are expecting resistance and attackers, you can choose your response in advance, as opposed to reacting inappropriately. This, Ferriss says, will only multiply the problem. “Online I see people committing ’social media suicide’ all the time by one of two ways. Firstly by responding to all criticism, meaning you’re never going to find time to complete important milestones of your own, and by responding to things that don’t warrant a response.” This, says Ferriss, lends more credibility by driving traffic.

3. “Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity.” (Colin Powell)

“If you treat everyone the same and respond to everyone by apologizing or agreeing, you’re not going to be recognizing the best performers, and you’re not going to be improving the worst performers,” Ferriss says. “That guarantees you’ll get more behavior you don’t want and less you do.” That doesn’t mean never respond, Ferriss goes on to say, but be “tactical and strategic” when you do.

4. “If you are really effective at what you do, 95% of the things said about you will be negative.” (Scott Boras)

“This principle goes hand-in-hand with number two,” Ferriss says. “I actually keep this quote in my wallet because it is a reminder that the best people in almost any field are almost always the people who get the most criticism.” The bigger your impact, explains Ferriss (whose book is a New York Times, WSJ and BusinessWeek bestseller), and the larger the ambition and scale of your project, the more negativity you’ll encounter. Ferriss jokes he has haters “in about 35 languages.”

5. “If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.” (Epictetus)

“Another way to phrase this is through a more recent quote from Elbert Hubbard,” Ferriss says. “‘To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” Ferriss, who holds a Guinness World Record for the most consecutive tango spins, says he has learned to enjoy criticism over the years. Ferriss, using Roman philosophy to expand on his point, says: “Cato, who Seneca believed to be the perfect stoic, practiced this by wearing darker robes than was customary and by wearing no tunic. He expected to be ridiculed and he was, he did this to train himself to only be ashamed of those things that are truly worth being ashamed of. To do anything remotely interesting you need to train yourself to be effective at dealing with, responding to, even enjoying criticism… In fact, I would take the quote a step further and encourage people to actively pursue being thought foolish and stupid.”

6. “Living well is the best revenge.” (George Herbert)

“The best way to counter-attack a hater is to make it blatantly obvious that their attack has had no impact on you,” Ferriss advises. “That, and [show] how much fun you’re having!” Ferriss goes on to say that the best revenge is letting haters continue to live with their own resentment and anger, which most of the time has nothing to do with you in particular. “If a vessel contains acid and you pour some on an object, it’s still the vessel that sustains the most damage,” Ferriss says. “Don’t get angry, don’t get even — focus on living well and that will eat at them more than anything you can do.”

7. Keep calm and carry on.

The slogan “Keep Calm and Carry On” was originally produced by the British government during the Second World War as a propaganda message to comfort people in the face of Nazi invasion. Ferriss takes the message and applies it to today’s world. “Focus on impact, not approval. If you believe you can change the world, which I hope you do, do what you believe is right and expect resistance and expect attackers,” Ferriss concludes. “Keep calm and carry on!”

Here’s the entire article (with video).

Now, let’s get back to work and let the haters wallow in their self-pity.

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About Susan Lassiter-Lyons

Susan is the author of Mortgage Secrets for Real Estate Investors and founder of the award-winning real estate blog, TheInvestorInsights.com. A real estate investor since 1994, Susan has raised $26.2 million in private money and participated in more than 600 transactions as an investor, broker, lender, syndicator and advisor. Susan is a dedicated trainer and her training, seminars and coaching programs have transformed the lives and businesses of thousands of real estate investors worldwide.

4 Comments

  1. Pingback: 7 Ways To Deal With Critics And “Haters” | Real Estate Investing News Watch Blog Aggregator

  2. John

    June 25, 2010 at 7:52 am

    Thanks for sharing this great topic as Ive said I really love reading articles in your blog since you always make things interesting.
    Actually this site was referred by a friend and I told them that I love your site and I thank them as well for sharing it to me.
    More power!

  3. Ben

    June 25, 2010 at 12:31 pm

    “Keep calm and carry on” Great post just like what John said and actually this is one of my favorite sites.

  4. Anthony

    May 31, 2011 at 12:46 am

    Susan,

    I’m a BP member and I think the world of you and what you do. And for the record, Jeff Brown is a knowledgeable investor but he can get on my nerves. A lot!

    If I can quote the great Kanye West –

    “…50 said go ahead and switch the style up and if they hate, let ‘em hate and watch the money pile up!…”

    Keep doing what you do, Susan. The haters can walk the plank.

    Best,
    Anthony

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