The Best Laid Plans

By Susan Lassiter-Lyons | Real Estate

There is a line in “To a Mouse,” by Robert Burns:

“The best laid schemes o' mice an' men / Gang aft a-gley.”

Which roughly translated means the best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry.

Last year was a rebuilding year for my business. I changed many of my foundational systems and processes and totally reinvented my training and coaching business.

So, it was not a year of great growth, it was a year of reinvention.

And even though I managed a gross revenue increase over 2015 by a teeny 5.8%, it didn't feel like a very good year.

So, at the end of 2016, I dug deep and created a kick ass plan for 2017 using my One Life system.

It was probably the most comprehensive and well thought out plan I've ever created.

January 1st came and I was SO EXCITED to implement my plan.

I got right to work on task #1 for week #1 of month #1 of the new year….

… and on January 4th my Mom died.

It was unexpected and shocking on many levels. In fact, two weeks later I still feel like I'm in a fog – unfocused, distracted, and grieving.

Not very conducive to implementing the world's greatest plan!

So, for the last two weeks as I take care of my Mom's arrangements (she left no will, no life insurance, and no instructions), I have been beating myself up for neglecting my work.

Beating myself up for neglecting YOU.

Spoiler Alert: Guilting and shaming yourself into work doesn't work at all.

Today I was on Skype with my friend and accountability partner, Kriss, and he gave me a total change in perspective.

He told me to stop beating myself up and to take it easy for a while.

All last year, I referred to my year of rebuilding as my year of “cruising in the right lane.”

This after so many years of speeding in the left lane going 110 mph with my hair on fire.

Kriss expanded on that metaphor today to encourage me to immediately move into the breakdown lane and turn my hazard lights on. (lol)

So, the year got off to a bad start.

With no signs of slowing – my nephew Ronin was diagnosed with epilepsy today.

The big lesson for me, and hopefully for you too, is that sometimes even the best plans go awry.

That doesn't mean that we abandon the plan altogether. Rather, it means we get to practice our entrepreneurial flexibility.

Instead of abandoning the plan, we simply modify it.

We adapt it to reflect what's happening in our lives – just like I teach in my One Life system (watch for free here).

And eventually, the clouds part and the path becomes clear again.

This year I have some big plans – for me AND you.

But for now, I'm taking a little bit of time to grieve and reflect.

When life gets in the way, the ability to hit the reset button and carry on is key.

And even though I'm in the break down lane with my hazards on this month, next month I'll be right back… zooming down the highway in the LEFT lane.

And that's a valuable lesson we all need sometimes.

Take some time today to let your family know how much you love them because life is short.

And while you're at it, love yourself.

Because in case no one has told you this lately, you are amazing. 🙂

Here's a picture of me and my Mom, Patricia Lassiter. Rest in peace, Mom. I love you.

Mom and me.

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Catherine G. Nierenberg

Susan, So sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, you can’t put grieving on a schedule. It sometimes blindsides you and you have to just surrender to it. She must have been a great person to have produced you. My condolences.

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    Thanks, Catherine.

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T. Quinton Smith

Tyrome on January 24, 2017 at 2:06 pm

I would like to start by sending my condolences to you and your family. May I say in you your mother has left a good example of the type of person she was. I mean the goodness in her heart we can see in the way you conduct your business practice. I have found the burden gets lighter with the passage of time. But the warmth and wisdom she shared with her will always live on.

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    Thanks so much.

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Andrew Marshall

Susan…my heart felt condolences to you and your family for your loss. Take your time to grieve…protect your heart and be patient in accepting your loss before moving on. The work will always be there to dive back in to…and of course you have the most Loyal subscriber base on the planet…we’re not going anywhere..we’re grieving with you…we’re FAMILY…!!!

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    Thanks Andrew. Means a lot.

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Danny Trujillo

When my mom passed away, the world just kept on going and going, I wanted to shout “Don’t you know what just happened here?” That’s why we have each other to help make it through this…….and parents are unique, we may know other family or friends or famous people who die, but our parents are unique!!!!!!! It is always the right time to seek God, his comfort, and strength. For anyone of faith, going home to heaven is the good part, the living here can be difficult, and He helps us to be strong when our own strength is limited. In the end there are three things that last, faith, hope, and love, and the greatest of these is love. Blessings for Patricia, and Peace to you Susan and to your family, and to Ronin.

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    Thank you, Danny.

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Bonita

Please take time to grieve. I remember when I was running in a local election when my mother died. For about three weeks it was all I could do to get out of bed in the mornings
. My priorities totally changed overnight that spring. Take good care of yourself.

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    Thank you, Bonita.

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James L Smith

Being unfocused, distracted, and grieving is what VIRTUALLY EVERYBODY feels…totally normal AND OKAY for U to feel like this….& anything less means you’re heartless, doesn’t it?…& could it be your soul’s way of focusing your energy where it’s most needed? so when U give her your best please do so w/o one thought about work bc won’t it always be there? & how many times does our Mother pass? U will look back on this time w/ no regrets bc U did your Mother right…bc U gave yourself the permission & space to step away from everything bc does anything else really matter when we’re talking about your Mother’s passing?…be kind & very patient w/ yourself especially if this is your 1st very close loved one to pass…healing time varies & there’s NO right length of time to mourn & remember that your tears will heal U.

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    Thanks Jim.

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Mark

My deepest condolences Susan you don’t know me but I have been a member of yours for a long time and I think you are great person and I appreciate you sharing that with us. May God bless you and your family in this time of adjustment.

Mark

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    Thanks so much, Mark.

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My sympathies are with you and your family at this time of terrible loss. I’ve recently lost my Mom too. My heart goes out to your family and you Susan, I believe you’ll be aquainted with Mom again.

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    Thank you, Richard. Sorry for your loss, as well.

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Darryl

I wish to express my condolences for your loss. Take the time needed, even if it is more than a month, to grieve. But just remember it is not goodbye just so long for now. I am completely confident that you will be reunited once again. Relationships don’t end at death.
Best wishes and may God comfort you.

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    Thank you, Darryl.

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Travis Watson

Thank you for sharing, and know that sometimes that helps most of all–for all. But know that, with God’s help and your wits, you’ll get through it all and be stronger for it. Be sure to celebrate your mom’s life as you move on with yours.

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    I will, Travis. Thank you.

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Esther Meehan

Susan, so deeply sorry to learn about your loss. Thank you for being the YOU that you are – you are simply the BEST. God only gives us what he knows we can handle. He believes in you because you love, have faith and trust in HIM. You have given us a great jump start with the ONE LIFE system, so we have plenty to keep us moving. You take as much time as you need. We will all be waiting for you and praying for peace and comfort for you and your family.

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    Thanks so much, Esther.

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Ben

Sorry to learn about your Mom and my condolence to you and your family. Now would be a good time to pull in for a pit stop and give yourself some personal time. knowing your drive – don’t believe it will take you long to get right back on track racing towards a checkered flag.

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    ha! Great analogy, Ben. Thanks for that.

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Anatole

Heartfelt sympathies to you and your family

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    Thanks, Anatole.

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Tyler H.

My condolences to you and your family. God have plans for all of us. Just trust in HIM and his plan for you. I have no doubt you will come back strong and 2017 will be one of your best year :).

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    Susan Lassiter-Lyons

    I hope so! Thanks, Tyler.

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kenny l berman

sorry to hear about your loss. hang in there and come back strong when you are ready

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Theo

My thoughts go out for you and your family. From what I’ve learned nobody escapes; no matter if your poor or rich life is just, this is how I’ve been able to adjust.So much has been learned within a short period of time from you. Can’t wait to see what this year has in-stored. From a #1 fan my sincere condolences.

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Love and compassion to You Susan. Death is hard on those left behind. And grief is a multi-layered thing. Only You know , what You require, and how much time you need. In the midst of it be gentle with Yourself.

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Michael Bochis

“How to survive the loss of a love” by Melba Cosgrove phd, H Bloomfield md, and P McWilliams. Amazon. Well done.
Mbochis@gmail.com. Prayers! Michael

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Ben Rodriguez

My most deepest and heart felt condolences to you and your family. Your Moms life has not ended…it’s actually just beginning, only her suffering in this world has ended. May the greatest of God’s grace and strength be with you in your time of loss.

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Dolores

When something like this happens it makes you realize how short life is and that we should live it to the fullest, take time to grieve and remember the good times you had with your Mum and be ok with taking it easy !! Our thoughts and prayers are with you, we have lots to keep working on 😉

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Louise DiSclafani

I do send my thoughts your way and also appreciate your sharing sense that has made you a great person and someone we lovingly follow. I’ve been through a lot over the past 10 years and especially the last 3 years. But I’m old enough now to have experienced all this stuff before (in some form) and know I’m strong enough to re-build and be successful. And I’m almost there. We need to stay strong and yes be kind to our self as we need. But never fall into remission as we know that won’t help. A close friend said many years ago that she realized she needed some self motivation and said to herself every night…this day will pass and a new day begins tomorrow. I think I’ve done that to a degree to help me. And I pass it on as one possible road to travel…

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Vern

Amen, Susan, last year i had a start like you, vertigo, knocked me off my feet and i was in hospital 3 Days. Bottom line i had to learn to walk again, took 5 months to diagnose that i had ‘text neck” from reading on ipad n texting…. sound like anyone?

Gave me a lot of thinking time and it focused me on all things important and not…. I still focus on real estate but make sure to sprinkle time for wife, kids golf n fun!

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So very sorry to hear of your loss, and concerns over your nephew’s health. Thank you again, for being Real with those of us who follow you, because Life does Happen; and we do at times need to soften on our business goals to care for all we love and hold most dear. You certainly will recover and likely find getting back in the left lane a great help as you process through your grieving. Until then, trust everything you built all these years will support you through a new transition. Condolences to you and your entire family.

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