There is a line in “To a Mouse,” by Robert Burns:
“The best laid schemes o' mice an' men / Gang aft a-gley.”
Which roughly translated means the best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry.
Last year was a rebuilding year for my business. I changed many of my foundational systems and processes and totally reinvented my training and coaching business.
So, it was not a year of great growth, it was a year of reinvention.
And even though I managed a gross revenue increase over 2015 by a teeny 5.8%, it didn't feel like a very good year.
So, at the end of 2016, I dug deep and created a kick ass plan for 2017 using my One Life system.
It was probably the most comprehensive and well thought out plan I've ever created.
January 1st came and I was SO EXCITED to implement my plan.
I got right to work on task #1 for week #1 of month #1 of the new year….
… and on January 4th my Mom died.
It was unexpected and shocking on many levels. In fact, two weeks later I still feel like I'm in a fog – unfocused, distracted, and grieving.
Not very conducive to implementing the world's greatest plan!
So, for the last two weeks as I take care of my Mom's arrangements (she left no will, no life insurance, and no instructions), I have been beating myself up for neglecting my work.
Beating myself up for neglecting YOU.
Spoiler Alert: Guilting and shaming yourself into work doesn't work at all.
Today I was on Skype with my friend and accountability partner, Kriss, and he gave me a total change in perspective.
He told me to stop beating myself up and to take it easy for a while.
All last year, I referred to my year of rebuilding as my year of “cruising in the right lane.”
This after so many years of speeding in the left lane going 110 mph with my hair on fire.
Kriss expanded on that metaphor today to encourage me to immediately move into the breakdown lane and turn my hazard lights on. (lol)
So, the year got off to a bad start.
With no signs of slowing – my nephew Ronin was diagnosed with epilepsy today.
The big lesson for me, and hopefully for you too, is that sometimes even the best plans go awry.
That doesn't mean that we abandon the plan altogether. Rather, it means we get to practice our entrepreneurial flexibility.
Instead of abandoning the plan, we simply modify it.
We adapt it to reflect what's happening in our lives – just like I teach in my One Life system (watch for free here).
And eventually, the clouds part and the path becomes clear again.
This year I have some big plans – for me AND you.
But for now, I'm taking a little bit of time to grieve and reflect.
When life gets in the way, the ability to hit the reset button and carry on is key.
And even though I'm in the break down lane with my hazards on this month, next month I'll be right back… zooming down the highway in the LEFT lane.
And that's a valuable lesson we all need sometimes.
Take some time today to let your family know how much you love them because life is short.
And while you're at it, love yourself.
Because in case no one has told you this lately, you are amazing. 🙂
Here's a picture of me and my Mom, Patricia Lassiter. Rest in peace, Mom. I love you.